Why there is no happiness in spite of having all the luxuries in life? It’s primarily because, we are blinded by faith which does not exists and instead keep worrying about what we cannot control rather than shifting the energy to what we can create.
If you want to be happy, do not dwell in the past, do not worry about the future, focus on living fully in the present. It’s only after you’ve stepped outside your comfort zone that you begin to change, grow, and transform.
Take responsibility of your own happiness; never put it in other people’s hands. Do what is right, not what is easy nor what is popular. The past is a place of reference, not a place of residence; the past is a place of learning, not a place of living.
Life becomes easier and more beautiful when we can see the good in other people. Learn to enjoy every minute of your life. Be happy now. Don’t wait for something outside of yourself to make you happy in the future. Think how really precious is the time you have to spend, whether it’s at work or with your family. Every minute should be enjoyed and savored.
The real life line of our happiness lies in the feet of our parents or in other words in a combined family. No luxuries can equal or match the happiness what we get from our parents. They are the living Gods.
But, sadly, we find these Gods in Old Age Homes or in Community Centers living life of a hell. It is circle of life, what goes around comes around. It seems true to me as what we are doing to our children as working parents. We drop them to a nearby Creche or a Day Care Home and as they grow up, they find themselves left alone and over the period of time, the cycle of Karma (Deed) is returned with interest in the form of Old Age Homes.
The moral here is simple, what we sow, we reap. No man-woman is worth your tears and the only one who is, will ever make you cry. If you love someone, put their name in a circle, instead of a heart, because hearts can break, but circles go on forever.
My emphasis is to outline the few facts for staying happy and the importance of life together with parents.
Everyone hears what you say. Friends listen to what you say. Best friends listen to what you don’t say. If all my friends were to jump off a bridge, I wouldn’t jump with them; I’d be at the bottom to catch them.
It takes a minute to have a crush on someone, an hour to like someone, and a day to love someone–but it takes a lifetime to forget someone.
If you don’t like something change it; if you can’t change it, change the way you think about it. “Being” the Best is not at all important; “Doing” the Best is all that matters.
When you struggle with your partner, you are struggling with yourself. Every fault you see in them touches a denied weakness in yourself.
Never Blame any Day in Your Life. Good Days gives you Happiness. Bad days give you Experience. Both are Essential in Life.
It’s especially important that we parents give children a good start, but it’s also important for us parents to recognize that kids come into the world with their own temperaments, and it’s the parents’ job to provide an interface with the world that eventually prepares a child for complete independence. Studies show that the best-adjusted children are reared by parents who find a way to combine warmth and sensitivity with clear behavioral expectations. There is such a thing as over parenting, and aiming for perfection in parenting might be a fool’s mission. Too much parenting cripples children as they move into adulthood and renders them unable to cope with the merest setbacks. Ironically, harsh or authoritarian styles of parenting can have the same effect.
You must believe in your child’s worth before he or she can believe it. If you want your child to have self-confidence and motivation, watch for positive behaviors and comment on them.
Listen, without judgment, to your child express his or her thoughts and feelings. If you do not listen, your child may attempt to gain your attention by misbehaving.
Labor diligently and with pride so that your child will want to work hard, persevere and do his or her best.
Laugh with your child, not at him or her. Demonstrate a sense of humor as you cope with life’s difficulties. Laugh and play together.
Learn new information. It is fine to say, I don’t know, but then add that you both can find out together. Take the time to read and thus instill a love of learning. On car trips play word games, read or listen to books on tape.
Take pleasure in little things like an ice cream cone, a beautiful day or the enthusiasm of your child. Read, pretend, take walks, play games, have pleasant meals, share dreams, and enjoy each other.
Never lose temper at the same time. Don’t let the sun set on your quarrels (Never prolong fights if at all started). It is OK to say “I am sorry”.
Bring GOD back into your home: This is one of the most important one. Have a common time for prayers. It brings families together. Families that pray together stay together.
I ran into a stranger as he passed by, “Oh excuse me please” was my reply.
He said, “Please excuse me too; I wasn’t watching for you.”
We were very polite, this stranger and I. We went on our way and we said goodbye.
But at home a different story is told, how we treat our loved ones, young and old.
When I turned, I nearly knocked him down. “Move out of the way,” I said with a frown. He walked away, his little heartbroken. I didn’t realize how harshly I’d spoken.
While I lay awake in bed, God’s still small voice came to me and said, “While dealing with a stranger, common courtesy you use, but the family you love, you seem to abuse.
Go and look on the kitchen floor, you’ll find some flowers there by the door. Those are the flowers he brought for you. He picked them himself: pink, yellow and blue. He stood very quietly not to spoil the surprise; you never saw the tears that filled his little eyes.”
By this time, I felt very small, and now my tears began to fall.
I quietly went and knelt by his bed; “Wake up, little one, wake up,” I said. “Are these the flowers you picked for me?” He smiled, “I found them, out by the tree.
I picked them because they’re pretty like you. I knew you’d like them, especially the blue.”
I said, “Son, I’m very sorry for the way I acted today; I shouldn’t have yelled at you that way.” He said, its fine. I love you anyway.”
I said, “Son, I love you too, and I do like the flowers, especially the blue.”
Are you aware that if we died tomorrow, the company that we are working for could easily replace us in a matter of days? But the family we left behind will feel the loss for the rest of their lives.
And come to think of it, we pour ourselves more into work than into our own family, an unwise investment indeed, don’t you think? So what is behind the story?
Well; so far so good, let me share with you a wonderful and inspiring tale of a great son called ‘Pundalik’ and here it goes. Once a devotee named Pundalik was travelling to Kashi and reached the Ashram of Saint Kukkut.
He asked the sage the way to Kashi. Kukkut Rishi said that he did not know the way to Kashi and he had never been there.
Pundalik made fun of Kukkut Rishi for not knowing the way to Kashi and said that a holy man like him should have already visited Kashi.
Kukkut Rishi kept quiet and did not bother to answer Pundalik.
During the course of the night Pundalik heard the voice of women in the ashram.
He came out to look what was happening and saw that these women were sprinkling water and cleaning the Ashram.
On inquiry, Pundalik found out that the three women were Ganga, Yamuna and Saraswathi and they had come to clean the Ashram of Kukkut Rishi.
Pundalik wondered how a saint like Kukkut who had not visited kashi was such holy and powerful that the three holy rivers came down to purity his ashram.
The three women told Pundalik that piety, spirituality and devotion does not depend on visiting holy places or doing costly rituals but in performing ones karma.
The three women told him that sage Kukkut has served and nursed his parents most faithfully and devoted all his life to that one aim.
Pundalik had left his old parents at home and was visiting Kashi to gain moksha and blessings.
He did not bother to entertain the request of his parents to take them also to Kashi.
Pundalik now understood his mistake and rushed back home and took his parents to Kashi and on return started looking after them.
From then onwards the care of his old mother and father came before everything else.
Lord Krishna was moved by the sincere devotion of Pundalik towards his parents. He decided to visit Pundalik’s home.
When Lord Krishna visited Pundalik’s home, he was serving food to his old parents. Pundalik saw the lord at his door but his devotion to his parents was so intense that he wanted to finish his duties first and then attend to his guest.
Pundalik had reached such a stage that it didn’t matter to him whether the guest was a mere mortal or god.
All that mattered was service to his parents.
Pundalik gave Lord Krishna a brick to stand on and asked him to wait until his duty was completed.
Lord Krishna was moved by the devotion of Pundalik to his parents and waited for him patiently.
Later when Pundalik came out, he asked the lord forgiveness for making him wait.
Lord Krishna blessed him and told him to ask for a boon. Pundalik said what more can I ask when the Lord himself waits for me.
When Lord Krishna insisted that, he ask a boon, Pundalik asked that the Lord should remain on earth and bless and take care of his devotees.
Lord Krishna agreed to stay there and is known as Vithoba or the Lord who stands on a brick.
This form of the Lord Vithoba is Swayambhu which means that his idol has not been carved or etched but it came into existence on its own.
This mystery happened in Pandharpur of Maharashtra in India hence Vithoba is also called as Panduranga or Pandharinatha.
Thus, reminding myself to keep moving, keep daring and never forget that my happiness is within me and not dependent on others and thus, decided to share these very experiences with the hope that it’ll help you as much as it did to me! Stay blessed.